“People need to ask themselves if they are compatible with the three “F’s” of love. It’s Family. Finances. Future Goals. Let’s break them down: First of all, I feel that I need to debunk the myth that good sex means a good long-term relationship,” she shared. Many of us plan out our future with someone in our heads before
“When the cocktail of lustful neurohormones lose their potency, every monogamous relationship must get creative, add novelty, and do the work necessary to keep that aspect of their relationship alive. As the love pheromones die down, however, other aspects of the relationship become more important.”Family – If at least one of you are in their childbearing years, a discussion about reproduction is crucial.
“Future – Before you commit, ask yourself where you’d like to be in five years, ten years, or even twenty? I know that John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans,” but if you don’t start out with a shared plan, where are you at? Talk about careers, how you’ll do the work/family balance, where you’d like to live, and maybe even how you’d like to retire.”We also wanted to know her thoughts on the importance of folks sharing their experiences online.